Have white girls become undateable?

It struck me recently that I haven’t been on a date, had a sexual encounter or initiated anything romantic with a white woman for well over two years.

By white, I mean British, but I guess I’m referring to really any women from Western countries (think North America, the UK and Scandinavia).

I’m English, yet I can’t get an English girlfriend. A quick Internet search revealed that I’m not isolated in my situation. Yet, I look around me and I see white guys with women from Asian countries all the time.  And although I’m not personally interested, I hear positive things about women from former Eastern bloc countries like Poland, Czech Republic and Hungary.

It got me thinking; if there was no mass immigration from international countries, I daresay I’d be alone, or I’d be stuck getting nowhere with English girls.

It’s no secret that there are many white guys who are intimidated (or just plain turned off) by a certain kind of white woman. The huge migration of women from China, Japan and South Korea to the UK (and US) has meant it’s never been easier for a white guy to find himself a beautiful Asian woman. And a lot of these guys find that that they do pretty well with girls form these countries whereas they wouldn’t have any play with native girls. Seriously, some of the guys who are merely average looking can find themselves with some stunning girls.

It hasn’t always been this way. At university the competition for most semi-decent women was fierce, and in any case most women weren’t interested in men who came their way. You guessed it, it was an English university and overwhelmingly populated by British students.

I’ve heard dismissive comments from some corners that men prefer Asian women because they are more submissive than western women. I’ll save this contentious issue for another day, another blog post.

But it’s true that you can be a lot more comfortable being a man among Asian women. And I’ve never met a single Asian woman who actively hates men.

It’s been said too, on Internet forums,  that Western women are impossible to please. You know what I’m talking about: women who are never satisfied because the guy doesn’t earn at least $100,000 and drive a Porsche. I’m exaggerating, but only by a little.

A look at the Guardian Soulmates dating column – in which a typical male Guardian reader (check-shirt, beard) is paired up with typical female Guardian reader (works in PR or marketing and has an asymmetrical haircut) reveals what the problem is. The date always go wrong, because the woman complains that there wasn’t any chemistry, there was no spark, the guy wasn’t funny enough. Exactly how funny a complete stranger is expected to be on a first date is not given much thought.

And so it goes….

It’s tough for everyone in the world of sex and relationships. But matters aren’t helped when you bring game-playing, flakiness and sky-high expectations into play. Something which isn’t a problem with girls from other countries who will give you their number if they are interested and then meet you straight away, with none of the

I want the last word to come from the Social Network, that classic of male computer geeks unleashing their inner yellow fever.

A group of Harvard students, including Mark Zuckerberg, are at Jewish mixer which is playing Caribbean music. Opposite them stands a cluster of dancing Asian women.

Here Brenda Song plays the role of Eduardo Saverin’s girlfriend Christy in The Social Network.

“There’s an algorithm for the connection between Jewish guys and Asian girls,” one of Zuckerberg’s friends says wryly. “They’re hot, smart, not Jewish and can dance.”


Famous Asian models

Liu Wen


Ms Wen is one of Asia’s brightest fashion stars, named by the New York Times as “China’s first bona fide supermodel.” She has garnered a long line of firsts, including the first Asian supermodel in a Victoria’s Secret show.





A Japanese model with 754, 000 Instagram followers, Megbaby is a Moschino devotee, as evidenced by her one-shouldered ‘Caution’ gown.

Kim Hyo-jin

South Korea


The South Korean actress is known for taking on adventurous roles and being featured in  fashion shoots for the country’s editions of glossy magazines such as Marie Claire. She and her husband, the actor Yoo Ji-Tae are regular celebrity tabloid fodder in South Korea, which has one of the fastest growing luxury markets in the world.

Zhang Yuqi



At the first show of Milan fashion week, the 29 year old actress, also known as Kitty Zhang, wore a Gucci raincoat printed with the brand’s signature G logo. She is the star of “The Mermaid,” which smashed records as China’s highest-grossing films.

Crystal Mu



With more than a million followers on Weibo and a booming fashion blog,  the socialite is considered a key Asian influencer by Italian fashion businesses such as the Florence cult concept store Luisa Via Roma.



Diary of a romance Part 8

This is probably the last post I will write about xxxx.

No, we’re not breaking up. We’re getting on really well and things are going from strength to strength. I simply don’t feel the need to broadcast all the details onto the internet. A few people commented that it might not be the best idea to post anything overly sexual that the public might be able to read.

But my overall message is that although meeting people can feel really hard in a city such as London, you will never get anywhere unless you go out and meet people. I’m always saying that you can meet people anywhere you go. Look up and smile at the person near you. Don’t wait around for the perfect opportunity. It may not be obvious, but sometimes the person sitting near you actually wants you to come over and talk to them. Yes, it takes some courage to go over and approach a stranger.

You can try to do things the old-fashioned way by arranging meetings through dating sites. However this can to easily lead to disappointment and rejection.

I met xxxx in a Starbucks coffeeshop. If I hadn’t made the effort to talk to her, I might still be on my own. So there you go. Put down your phone. Turn off tinder. Go and make a handsome stranger’s day. Remember: loneliness sucks big time.

Adventures in Koreatown

After having lived in New Malden for over two years, I’ve become a total Korean connoisseur and a little bit obsessive about everything 한국어. I started blogging about New Malden in 2014, specifically relating to the Korean establishments.

New Malden has changed a lot since then, with the arrival of Pizza Express and Nando’s, not to mention Foxton’s Estate Agents – a sure sign that the area is quickly moving upmarket.

It still holds the claim of being home to the largest Korean population outside of Korea. Here are my favourite places to eat and drink in and around the area of New Malden….


(left to right: Flat White and green tea cookie (The Place); Meeyoung at K-Mart; Blue House cocktail and Bazooka Joe cocktail at Sing Sing Bar & Karaoke)

The Place Cafe

They make the best flat white here. I rate their snacks and cakes highly too. A slice of carrot cake with your coffee will do you no harm at all.



This place is so popular that they have to make extra room for customers at the back by the freezer compartments. It doesn’t really need my help as it’s already doing extremely well. Try the naengmyeon (cold chewy noodles with chilli sauce) or galbitang (rib of beef soup).

69 High St, New Malden KT3 4BT

Sing Sing Bar and Karaoke

Run by the exceptionally friendly and welcoming JC Choi, this is like a Korean dive bar. It’s as popular with local  students as it is with Koreans. Last year they introduced a bar menu which includes such classic ‘anju’ fare like ramen and dried squid.


There’s no ‘Bingsoo’ in this picture, I just thought it would be nice to show some Koreans at play

This is the newest place on my list (it opened in March 2016). It’s difficult to think of a better way to end a Korean meal than a bowl of shaved ice with green tea or coffee ice cream. Besides a slice of orange or pear given at the end of your meal, you will have trouble finding any dessert items in Korean restaurants. This bright, airy and spacious cafe looks great and is already a hit with Korean locals.

Note: if you want red beans, you must order Pat Bingsoo, rather than ordinary Bingsoo, which translates as shaved ice, and looks like a bowl of snow with a scoop of ice-cream on top.

39 High St, New Malden KT3 4BY


Named after the upmarket location made so famous by Psy, it opened last year, and in my opinion (admittedly not worth much) it is the best option for Korean food on the high street. Prices are cheap and they make you feel right at home. Halfway through a recent dinner the waitress removed the empty banchan dishes and refilled them without even being asked. This sort of thing makes eating in Korean restaurants such an enjoyable experience.


19 High St, New Malden KT3 4BY

Hyun’s bakery

Korean baking is a strange and wonderful experience. It’s certainly not as sweet as American doughnuts or even French patisserie. Try a very soft bun filled with red bean paste or custard.


94 Burlington Rd, New Malden KT3 4NT


Every inch of this store is crammed full of every culinary item you could possibly need to make delicious Korean soups and rice dishes. Have a chat to the friendly staff and practice Korean with one of the women who work there.

71-73 High St, New Malden KT3 4BT

New Malden Korean Food Festival, The Fountain Pub

Once a year, during the second Saturday of July, the beer garden of this grotty local pub is transformed into a giant outdoor barbecue cooking every kind of meat imaginable. Alongside all the eating there are performances and a celebration of Korean music and culture.


Held on the second Saturday of July in the garden of the Fountain pub