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Does porn Asian porn do more harm than good?

I like to watch porn, and as I have a liking for Asian women, I like to see some Asian porn from time to time. If I’m interested in women from a particular country, I will tailor my search to find porn that matches exactly the Asian nationality I am looking for.

I know I’m not alone in my preference. For example, visit pornhub and you will see Asian as one of the first categories that people can search for. Not merely because it begins with A, but simply because Asian is probably the most popular category there is. And although some would call it a fetish, its more that men prefer to watch Asian women above women of any other nationality. I’ll reserve the term fetish for the category of more extreme stuff which tends to involve Asian women.

What I’m more concerned with here is the standard of the pornography (Asian) that is produced and the possible messages it sends to the user. Let’s say for simplicity sake that the user we are talking about is a white male. He probably meets few Asian woman IRL, unless he happens to be travelling to an Asian country or living in one. And let’s also assume that he doesn’t have an Asian girlfriend. His first exposure to Asian women is likely to come from pornography – and this may shape his ideas about Asian women.

Generally the nature of Asian pornography tends to put an emphasis on the Asian ethnicity of the performers first and foremost. It’s as if the main appeal of these women is their Asian-ness. This is of course true of many women in porn – women being sold on the basis of where they come from, body type – but it seems especially true of Asian porn. Then there is the perceived ‘foreign’ appeal that these women have. For example, films typically emphasise their foreign ethnicity in many ways. It’s common for titles to reference particular cultural symbols – the fortune cookie, sakura for Japan – or simply references to Asian food (one series being called Asian buffet).

For most American pornography the titles reflect the desire white men have for Asian women. Most pornographic film scenarios combine an Asian woman with a white man, but it’s becoming more common to see black men with Asian women too – even becoming a sub-category in its own right. In spite of the fact that many Asian women may never date a man outside their own race – from watching these films you get the idea that all Asian women are desperate to have sex with he first white or black man that the meet. One thing that is less common is any reference to Asian genitalia being any different from other women’s – and here the makers may be doing some service to Asian women in refusing to spread this trope. It’s also less common to see Asian women being depicted as submissive. Perhaps this isn’t such a good stereotype to use if you want to show a confident and sexy woman.

On the other hand – If you’re an ASian woman, you might worry more about the damage these films do in a general sense. For example – the sheer quantity of porn produced in Japan must have an effect on the way Japanese women are viewed by outsiders – and not all of it is positive. Then again – I wonder how many men have watched these films and thought that they would like an Asian or in particular a Japanese girlfriend. Here it’s worth pointing out that of all the pornography produced in Japan (known as AV) – it’s always Japanese women and Japanese men (or occasionally a white woman and a Japanese man). this gives the impression (rightly or not) that it’s harder for foreign men to have sex with Japanese women or have them as partner.

If there’s a category of Asian porn that is likely to harm Asian women the most, it is the films that show older western men in poorer Asian countries seeking out usually younger Asian women and filming them for sex. My biggest concern for these films is that the women are greatly disadvantaged economically and cannot truly give their consent. Pornographic websites producing this content send out the message that women in Thailand or Vietnam are so much easier to have sex with; and are not concerned even with sexual health or protection. They spread the troubling belief that women can be bought and used purely for men’s sexual pleasure. Once the women are filmed in these situations, they lose all control over their freedoms: the information is able to spread across the internet. It’s probable that the companies which take the money from the subscribers paying for the content are seeing the profits from this exploitation. If these women had more power – they could find away to generate income through producing their own media and by having control of its distribution. We are already seeing this happen with Asian performers in the States – with adult actresses such as Vina Skyy and Cindy Starfall producing their own material which they can promote through fan only websites. Sadly, the woman in poorer Asian countries have no such option for their work.

If they wanted to, the women in amateur sex videos which are shown online could use the videos as promotion. If they could find a way to target the users directly – treating them to self-produced content. Every time a new video is uploaded, it gets harder and harder for men to see women in poorer Asian countries as having much choice over what happens to them. Men will continue to travel to these countries because the women are seen to be more sexually promiscuous – and the advantage on most occasions comes from simply having a foreign passport. It will only change when the women

If there is a positive side to all of the Asian pornography, it’s that men will continue to seek out Asian women for sex, companionship and perhaps marriage. The demand for Asian porn is amply met by supply which seems to show no signs of slowing down. If anything, there is more pornography than ever before – the huge amount of Asian performers is evidence of this. And with so many white men favouring Asian women, how much of this is down to the rise of Asian pornography is obviously difficult to say. At it’s best, pornography can help to teach people about sexuality. The best films show sexuality in a positive light and I will continue to watch films which I believe send out positive messages.

Until they do, the men who make this material will continue to exploit these women due to the economic advantage they have over them.

New Year’s Lay

New Year’e eve, 520 pm.

It’s new Year’s Eve, and, as on so many lonely nights, my thoughts turn to women, and with them, sex as well. There’s not much to do when you’re alone but imagine them and hope that somehow they will hear your lonely and horny heart crying out for them.

I have a whole database of porn that I could revert to on this occasion, and get it on. But the idea of sitting at home, unwashed and improperly dressed, doing something unspeakable in front of Invasian 3 seems insulting to this day. New Year’s Eve is the time to be out there in the thick of it. Meeting people, rubbing shoulders (at the very least) with beautiful strangers. When so many people are still putting their faith in the holiday season, who am I to show my disdain by staying in alone and touching myself?

There are plenty of apps designed to get men and women together as quickly as possible, and to the bedroom eventually. But I don’t have much time, as such a last minute guy as I am. I also didn’t make any plans for tonight. I want to be social, but not with the few friends I have. Tonight, I want to feel the thrill of a random encounter with a stranger.

Until the day comes when, like in Logan’s Run where Jenny Agutter materialises in front of Michael York at the press of a button, I must find women the old-fashioned way, using the internet to find sex partners. There are plenty of sites I have visited, and the one that best meets my needs is called ‘Easy Lay.’ I flip open my laptop and type my desired woman into the search bar. “Asian female, 20, slim, busty.” A few results come up, and I message one of them who looks like she can accommodate me.

What are you doing tonight? Want to have some fun?

she messages back right away.

I’m not doing anything. Do you want to come over?

I don’t need any persuading.

Give me thirty minutes, I say.

The thing is, when a girl is horny, you have to react quickly. It’s no good waiting around or she might lose interest.

…………thirty minutes later………………………………..

I’m standing in front of the door at the address where she lives. The thought does occur to me that she could be anyone. I guess she might be wondering the same thing about me.

The door slowly opens. I stand there for just a few seconds. I step inside. I’m relieved when I see that she looks just like her photo on the site.

She’s wearing a tight black dress and no stockings, her hair is down and she has on some bright red lipstick.

‘Won’t you come in?’

I’m momentarily dazzled by her beauty but I manage to stammer ‘Yes of course.’

‘You took a long time’.

I came on the tube, I say, by way of explanation.

She leads me down the corridor in to a large, open kitchen space.

‘Will you have something to drink?’

‘I’d like whisky if you have it.’

She pours out a large serving of single malt and sits it in front of me.

I take a look around the place. It’s clean, everything is new and hardly looks lived in at all.

‘Is it just you living here?’

‘It’s just me. Sometimes my friend comes to stay, the rest of the time, I’m the only one here.’

I take a sip of my whisky.

‘Aren’t you bored sometimes? Aren’t you terribly bored?’

She laughs.

‘Not really.’

I walk up to her lift her hands up. She moves towards me and I push my face towards hers. There is not one bit of resistance and I take the opportunity to kiss her.

Her lips are sticky – sweet from the lipgloss. I move past them with my tongue and I make gentle movements inside her mouth. I pull her up and we carry on kissing.

‘How did you like it? ‘

‘Mmm, pretty good.’

‘Oh, only good.’

‘Well, you could have used more force.’

‘Oh really? Ok, I will remember that.’

I let the whisky carry on its effect.

‘Do you like to watch porn?

‘I love porn. I watch it all the time.’

‘That’s good.’

‘I get most of my best moves from it.’

Her eyes open slighlty wider as she takes this in.

‘Do you like licking pussy?’

‘Yes. I do it all the time.’

‘Can you come a lot or just once?’

‘I usually come only once, unless we have sex for a long time.’

‘Hmmm. How long do you last for?’

‘I can last for at least thirty minutes.’ No lie, I really can.

She opens her legs under the table and i get a decent glimpse of thigh.

So, what porn have you been watching?

‘A lot of older women porn.’

‘Yes?’

‘So there are a lot of older women in porn. I don’t mean milfs exactly. i’m talking about older women who just decided to have sex on video because it’s always been a fantasy of theirs.’

‘Mmm, I get it. Is it hot?

‘It can be very hot. They are real women, amateurs. That’s the point. Some might have had some surgery, but most are natural. You can see their lines, blemishes and wrinkles. I’m not so interested in perfect-looking people.’

‘I’m interested.’

‘It’s great. the guy interviews the woman for ten minutes, asking her about her experiences. That’s often the hottest part. And when they are having sex, the guy doesn’t disrespect the woman or slap her around, he just has sex with her in the most erotic way possible.’

‘You’re making me hot.’

‘Ha ha.’

‘What do you want to do to me?’

‘I want to come on your face, I want to see it there on your chin, setting like a glaze.’

‘Wow.’

‘And then I want to watch as another girl slowly kisses you and licks it off.’

‘Oh that would be hot. But we don’t have another girl here, you’ll need to make do with me.’

‘I won’t be able to do anything, but watching the two of you, I can get hard again. What do you like in porn?’

the cumshot is hot. I like to see a man cum on a woman.’

‘How does it feel when he does it on you?’

‘She kicks her legs up and positions them on my lap.’

‘It’s fucking hot. I don’t mind where he does it. It just feels so good when it shoots out. Where do you like to do it?’

‘I like to cum on her stomach or her breasts, and watch it roll down her body.’

‘Men can’t come so much as women, can they?’

‘No we can’t. We need to work hard and then it’s just a small amount that comes out.’

I wonder what it feels like? When you orgasm?

‘It’s quite sudden. Everything feels tight, and then it’s loose, and you get a wonderful sensation as you start to orgasm. How is it for women?’

‘It’s a little different for women. We take longer to warm up. Our bodies start to tingle and we get wet. It’s like a light that gets brighter and warmer inside us.’

Are you feeling it now?

‘I’m feeling hot. Hearing you talk about coming on me made me hot inside. I want to feel you inside me.’

‘I’m feeling horny too.’

‘Is it so hard?’

It’s getting hard.

She stands up and comes over to me.

‘let me touch it.’

She puts her hand over me and holds it firmly.

I can get bigger if you suck me. Today I watched a totally awesome young Vietnamese woman take a guy’s balls in her mouth as she used her hand to get him hard. Will you do that for me?

‘I’ll try my best.’

‘Thank you.’

‘Have you had enough to drink?’

I look at the empty glass.’

‘We better get going, it’s nearly midnight and you haven’t fucked me yet.’

‘You’re right. Happy New Year!’

What kind of men do Asian women go for?

If you’re a western guy and you’re interested in dating a girl from Asia, what are they looking for? I believe that all women are different but there are a few characteristics in Western men that I think Asian women are attracted to.

Number one: kindness. The ‘nice guys finish last’ concept doesn’t apply to Asian women. In fact, it would be a real disadvantage if you tried to treat them with a lack of decency. Most western women will play games, deliberately making men wait before calling or texting back. But Asian women will be constantly in touch with you and will expect you to call them frequently. The more you call them, or be in communication, the more they will like you.

Number two: men with a normal body shape. I mean, not the kind of gym-toned physique that is held up as the ideal shape amongst western men. I’m basing this solely on the guys I see dating Asian women. Now, maybe they are as attracted to these gym rats as Western women are, but it doesn’t seem this way, and I very rarely see someone with bulging biceps with an Asian woman.

Number three: unattractive, or plain, homely looking men. Maybe Asian women have  a different aesthetic when it comes to standards of male attractiveness, but I’ve lost count of the number of times I’ve noticed the imbalance of physical attractiveness in a White male/Asian female couple. The kind of guys who get nowhere with women from their own country are able to get with out and out knockouts. I’ll keep talking about this until I start seeing a less attractive Asian woman with a more attractive white guy, but I haven’t yet. By the way, Korean-American comedian Margaret Cho has a great gag about very attractive Asian women with ugly white guys. You can watch it here:  

Number four: being an intellectual. In other words, you can be a geek, and it won’t be held against you. Why it would be a problem I don’t know. But most western women are idiots, so what can you expect? I feel that I’m not judged by Asian women if I prefer to stay in and read or learn a language instead of going out.

 

Diary of a Romance, part 4

I’ve decided that there’s no better time to be with someone than during Winter. If you’re alone during this time it can be really terrible. Not only do you have to face Christmas by yourself but a few weeks later you have Valentine’s Day too.

During the cold months, you want to spend your time snuggling under blankets and staying in, but this isn’t much fun if you’re alone.

I think it’s ok to be single in the summer. There are more opportunities to go out and meet people. People are keen to go out and meet people.

I’ve been staying in with Miho much more than I thought I would. It’s easy to think that when you start seeing someone you need to go out and spend a lot of money in expensive places. The problem with that is that you aren’t able to properly get to know someone if you are surrounded by distractions.

This morning Miho got up around 9 and I cooked breakfast. (I used the last of the Hotteok cakes from the freezer). I also used up a stale 1 day old croissant and cooked it in the oven with some cheese and ham.

Now we could have easily gone somewhere to eat breakfast. However this would have involved several decions, the first being where to go, and then what to eat, where to sit, how long to spend there, before eventually leaving and returning home.

Now, the beauty of staying in is that you already are at home and you don’t have to make countless small decisions.

I’m pretty sure Miho enjoys the breakfasts I make. There is washing up to be done after but this is a small price to pay.

We’ve been eating a lot of chocolate lately. Miho loves it (and so do I). It can only mean that it’s nearly Valentine’s day.

I surprised Miho by giving her chocolate early. Last week I ordered some Anthon Berg chocolates from Amazon. I’ve never had them before but they look different and they aren’t sold much here.

We also went to our favorite cafe together again (see photo)

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For the first time, I haven’t made plans for Saturday with Miho. The reason for this is that I want to give myself some free time. Plus, we don’t need to spend all our time together.

I have so far been very impressed with how much time Miho has been willing to spend with me and I feel she has been very generous with her time.

 

I spend a lot of time when I’m with Miho thinking about the next time that I will see her next but I would like to be able to just focus on the time spent in the here and now.