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China Love Cupid – dating site review

If you’re like me and you love Asian girls, you’ll want to do everything you can to meet as many of them as you can. When it comes to meeting girls abroad, you need to check out the dating sites. About the biggest one in terms of members is the lovecupid site. Signing up to make a profile is really easy. They break things down into categories where you can list your age, ethnicity and background. Then you can go into more detail, and do the same for the kind of things you are looking for in your partner. What I like about this site is it’s so straightforward. You can search girls based on certain parameters. Not only that, but the ‘online chat’ allows you to find girls who are online and available to chat.

Sign up cost

Like any dating site that you will want to join, you need to pay a membership fee to be able to access the benefits of the website. China Lovecupid charges a monthly fee for access to most of the features. You’ll need to pay this to send messages and reply to girls who message you. Premium membership is currently £11.00 a month, billed in one payment of £131 a year. I opted for the standard membership which is a little cheaper.

The girls

So once you’ve signed up, you want to get to know the girls. For me, China Cupid has the most girls of the various sites in the LoveCupid dating media. Not surprising really, as China is massive. Girls are eager to get chatting right away, and here it pays to be a white man from England or USA. The girls on here are 90% really good, with a few probable fakes. looks play a big part for a lot of women who are open about their wish to marry and start a family. Quite a few of the photos look very staged, with a lot of editing clearly having been done. That said, once you get to know them, ask them to show you some more recent photos of themselves.

Messaging

You can send messages on tinder and OkCupid and get no reply, but here women respond straight away.

I had several message me upfront. Often, they will send fairly generic messages along the lines of ‘I would like to get to know you more’. But you can soon move things forward, and after a few messages, you will need to get their WeChat to make things more intimate. Don’y be surprised if the girls start messaging you often, asking how you are, sending photos of themselves. It’s a reminder of how different the dating culture is in Asia. Another thing you will find is just how many women using the site are divorced, even the younger ones. The stigma against divorced women is where it really pays to sign up. Whereas most men in China won’t touch a married woman, I like to feel that westerners are more open-minded. Most women have been very open about why they are looking for western men.

For me, I have at times struggled to focus, because of the sheer volume of women. But you can narrow things down so that you focus on women from a particular region. I have found that women from Gangzhou province are particularly warm, friendly, and sexy. On the other hand, women in Shanghai and Beijing seem slightly more aloof and more difficult to impress.

Verdict.

Any site has to be judged on the quality of its members. ChinaCupid really delivers. The youngest girls I’ve chatted to are 19, going up to 70. I’ve chatted to a few milfs, still looking good in their fifties. On the whole, I have had the most success with women in their mid twenties to early thirties. Most of the women have enough English to send messages and a few will ask for video chat too. You’ll want to join this site if you are planning a trip to China. Which is exactly what I will be doing next year.

Yuka

Nationality: Japanese

Yuka is one of the biggest girls I have ever been with. She would be big for a white girl but being Japanese she is positively huge. I don’t know her dress size, but probably a size 16 by English standards. We met online, where she was able to hide some of her weight by filtering and careful editing.

When I met her I was pretty unimpressed. She seemed fairly dull and un-engaging. But I soon realised that this was typical Japanese modesty and she was only acting like that because we were in a public place. We had some lunch and she took me to a karaoke bar. The best thing about these places is you can be alone with someone and get up to the kind of activity that is not possible in public places. First we started kissing, then I sat her on top facing towards me. It was a job to balance her weight but I just about managed it. Yuka was moaning that she was feeling really horny and I took things further by unbuttoning her top to reveal her incredible breasts. I played with them over the bra without revealing them fully. I wanted to save that for later. She was relishing all the attention her body was getting. Maybe it had been a long time since anybody had touched her like that? We left the karaoke room before we went any further.

The next day, Yuka met me at my hotel; we went there just as the room was available at 3pm. I wasted no time in getting Yuka on the bed and I started taking off her clothes. Yuka’s flesh around her stomach was a little off-putting so I mainly avoided this area. Instead, I set my sights on her massive tits. With Yuka on top, I had the best opportunity for some breast play. They weren’t too saggy and I let them jiggle as Yuka started to grind on top of me. Occasionally I positioned my head directly in front of them; getting the up close experience was kind of mesmerizing. Yuka was moaning and telling me she would do whatever I told her. I didn’t want to suggest anything too wild at this stage so I thought it was best to get her on some oral. She knelt in front of me and gave me some good sucking action. Her mouth was big enough for her to get her lips around my cock and get a nice rhythm going. I wanted to see Yuka play with herself while I watched. I told her to touch herself, and she stopped sucking me off. I watched as she started to rub her pussy with her left hand, and used her right to touch her breasts. This went on a few minutes; Yuka really knew how to get herself turned on.

I pulled Yuka down and gave her a deep kiss and I started to touch her pussy. She was ready for sex. Her pussy was wet enough for me to slide in with no problems. She was really a little loose compared to a lot of Asian girls. I banged her for quite some time – maybe ten minutes. It was easy for me to lie on top of her and enjoy her incredible breasts pressing into me. After we finished we slept on top of each other, and then we got up to shower together. I got hard as we were in there naked and I enjoyed letting Yuka scrub me down as I rubbed soap all over her breasts.

We met a few days later, and this time I was much more prepared and I knew her body much better. I was much more forceful this time. I threw her down on the bed and kissed her roughly. Again I played with her breasts, and this time, I spread her ass a bit as she was fucking me on top. I could feel how wet she was as I thrust in and out. This time we didn’t bother to use a condom. Using the bed-stand for support, I propped Yuka upright. I have always wanted to titty-fuck but I have never found a woman able to do it. Yuka looked confused initially but as I knelt in front of her she understood what was going on. With my cock positioned in her cleavage, Yuka was squeezing her breasts together and moving them up and down. With her head looking down, my cock was almost touching her chin, and Yuka was doing a great job. Yuka’s breasts were so big, i could hardly see my cock and I started to cum. It was awesome watching the semen shoot out of her breasts and Yuka blinked as some of it caught her in the eye. She was a little annoyed that she had to wash her hair again before we went out.

I’m hoping to see Yuka again. She is a very uninhibited girl with a high sex drive and by the sounds of things she is up for anything. She can play submissive very well and would love a strong man to tell her what to do. I soon forgot that she was overweight when I was sleeping with her. She has a lot of energy and her curves add to the excitement. If I see her again , I will definitely take some photos and perhaps make a recording of our time together. My mind is going crazy just thinking about it…….

Sexless Korea

Is it possible that I got it wrong about Korea? Specifically, that it’s really easy to get with women if you’re white?

Whilst there are those who would say otherwise, here are a few reasons why it’s actually hard, really hard, to get even a date here as a foreign male.

  1. The culture is totally different. Yes, it’s obvious, but any of the rules in other countries don’t apply here. The hook-up culture is not the same. For example, Tinder is used as much to make friends as it is for actual dating (or so I’m told).

Some Korean women won’t date foreigners. You could have excellent Korean, be successful and good-looking, but some Korean women won’t date you because you’re not Korean. Although you will see WMAF couples, you won’t see many really top-level Korean women going out with anyone not Korean. As much as I hate it, it’s just a fact of life here.

The clubs are as much for dancing as they are for meeting people. On the two occasions I have been to clubs, I saw that most people were staying in gender-segregated groups. Men were definitely not approaching woman to dance. It would be completely different back home. It’s even harder to approach people in bars, because people sit on separate tables and don’t even place their orders at the bar. Although there is less opportunity to take a girl home here (most people still live at home) Koreans use the same phrase for one night stand, showing that they are at least aware of the concept.

Koreans have a rigid dating culture, and to approach someone randomly on the street, or in a cafe, isn’t really done. Although I have tried it several times, in most cases I could feel that the women didn’t really want to have a conversation with me and made a point of moving on as soon as possible.

The sheer amount of foreign students and English teachers has made foreigners less of a novelty. In fact, I feel largely ignored here, and somewhat invisible, to the point where I can be in a room of Koreans and nobody will acknowledge me.

The possibility that women will feel judged if they go out with foreign men possibly puts them off approaching them in the first place.

Lastly, the fact is that there are some sickos out there who will date a korean woman and flood sites with articles like ‘Korean women are easy’. This sort of thing does nobody any favours. Whilst you must always take something like that with massive grain of salt, whether it’s even true – and ask yourself whether someone who was actually sleeping with a lot of women would want to tell others about it online – it’s going to only make it harder for everyone.

One thing I am seeing is that there are much more Korean men with western women. I guess its because men are much more comfortable dating out of their culture than women here.

Meanwhile any men moving to South Korea in search of easy sex should do an instant reality check.

Sex with Asian women

There are lots of ways that Asian women stand out from women of other races but for me the number one area is in the bedroom. It’s no accident that amongst prostitutes Asian women can and do charge higher prices than any other races. So what makes them so special?

First of all, it’s their attitude.

Many Asian women can appear pretty demure in terms of how they behave and act. You don’t see many women from Asian countries wearing miniskirts or high heels. But that doesn’t mean they don’t enjoy sex. They simply aren’t going to advertise it in the same way as other women do.

Next – mannerisms in the bedroom. Asian women are very subtle in the bedroom and in my experience this is one of the best things about them. I simply can’t stand the over the top way women of other countries shout at the top of their lungs during the act. I also don’t understand the appeal of talking dirty during sex which is just as well because I would be terrible at it.

Their consideration. I was recently with a Chinese woman who took my clothes off and neatly folded them and placed them in a neat pile before we made love. It told me as much about her as anything else she went on to do.

Thirdly, they are more likely to want to please you in bed. This includes before and after, and it’s common for girls to want to massage you afterwards as well, which is pretty awesome when you think about it.

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There are a lot of Asian porn stars who have become are very famous and you can get an idea as to what makes Asian women great from watching these videos. For a start, it’s clear that they are usually much more petite than western women.

Their sexual appetite is strong (I’m not sure if its higher than other races) and they are energetic too.On a physical level they have minimal body hair and their skin feels amazing.

It might seem hard to believe that it could be this great but there really is nothing to not like about the whole Asian experience. I mean really great. Prepare to have your mind and your body blown away.

Even if you feel inexperienced sexually by the standards of western women, you’re going to be with women from cultures where it’s unusual to start dating or having sex until their twenties. Don’t worry, about which country they come from. It’s going to be good whether you choose a women from Thailand, the Phillipines or Japan,or China (you get the idea).

The fact is that I did not have sex in my early twenties made me feel inadequate. I didn’t feel accepted by women in my country. Now I’m realizing that maybe it wasn’t anything wrong with me at all. If you’re a white guy and you’re constantly made to feel not good enough or lacking in some way, there is a simple solution: look east, young man. 

What kind of men do Asian women go for?

If you’re a western guy and you’re interested in dating a girl from Asia, what are they looking for? I believe that all women are different but there are a few characteristics in Western men that I think Asian women are attracted to.

Number one: kindness. The ‘nice guys finish last’ concept doesn’t apply to Asian women. In fact, it would be a real disadvantage if you tried to treat them with a lack of decency. Most western women will play games, deliberately making men wait before calling or texting back. But Asian women will be constantly in touch with you and will expect you to call them frequently. The more you call them, or be in communication, the more they will like you.

Number two: men with a normal body shape. I mean, not the kind of gym-toned physique that is held up as the ideal shape amongst western men. I’m basing this solely on the guys I see dating Asian women. Now, maybe they are as attracted to these gym rats as Western women are, but it doesn’t seem this way, and I very rarely see someone with bulging biceps with an Asian woman.

Number three: unattractive, or plain, homely looking men. Maybe Asian women have  a different aesthetic when it comes to standards of male attractiveness, but I’ve lost count of the number of times I’ve noticed the imbalance of physical attractiveness in a White male/Asian female couple. The kind of guys who get nowhere with women from their own country are able to get with out and out knockouts. I’ll keep talking about this until I start seeing a less attractive Asian woman with a more attractive white guy, but I haven’t yet. By the way, Korean-American comedian Margaret Cho has a great gag about very attractive Asian women with ugly white guys. You can watch it here:  

Number four: being an intellectual. In other words, you can be a geek, and it won’t be held against you. Why it would be a problem I don’t know. But most western women are idiots, so what can you expect? I feel that I’m not judged by Asian women if I prefer to stay in and read or learn a language instead of going out.

 

Diary of romance, part 11: Goodbye

I finally said goodbye to Miho tonight. She is leaving for Japan tomorrow. I decided against going with her to the airport for obvious reasons. It would be too drawn-out and unnecessarily painful for both of us. We came back from a holiday in Spain on Friday and have been making the most of our time together.

I managed not to cry but Miho definitely shed a few tears. I felt more sad in the hours before rather than when I actually said goodbye. It was very hard and emotional watching her go. We said goodbye and she left my flat, but I waited outside my balcony to make sure that she caught the bus. I’m not sure what’s going to happen next but I’m confident we’ll see each other again.

The last seven months have been great with her by my side and I’m grateful for everything she has done for me, and I’m she feels the same for me too. I left her with a present and a card with some hastily written words. She gave me a card too but I haven’t opened it yet. It can wait a few hours anyway. They say love hurts and I’m beginning to see why…..

Diary of a romance, part 9

It looks like this is not the last of these posts as I have responded to the high level of interest in this topic.

I have found that one downside to spending your time with someone is that people assume that you just want to be alone with them. Friends stop calling; the invitations dry up.

We’re doing just fine. I’ve booked a holiday in Berlin next month so that will be great. I’ve arranged to meet my friend Max who has promised to be our personal tour guide for the trip.

We watched a travel program showing us some of the amazing sights (such as the zoo with Panda Bear ‘Bao Bao’ and a Polar Bear called Cnut). Plus they have special tours of the Eastern part of the city in Trabant cars. Sadly, I’ve just read that both of these bears died a few years ago. I must start watching more up-to-date travel guides.

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Bao Bao was the oldest Panda Bear to have been raised in captivity. Sadly, he died a few years ago.

What else? It’s nearly 100 days since we started seeing each other so that calls for some kind of celebration.  Suggestions welcome please!

Diary of a romance Part 8

This is probably the last post I will write about xxxx.

No, we’re not breaking up. We’re getting on really well and things are going from strength to strength. I simply don’t feel the need to broadcast all the details onto the internet. A few people commented that it might not be the best idea to post anything overly sexual that the public might be able to read.

But my overall message is that although meeting people can feel really hard in a city such as London, you will never get anywhere unless you go out and meet people. I’m always saying that you can meet people anywhere you go. Look up and smile at the person near you. Don’t wait around for the perfect opportunity. It may not be obvious, but sometimes the person sitting near you actually wants you to come over and talk to them. Yes, it takes some courage to go over and approach a stranger.

You can try to do things the old-fashioned way by arranging meetings through dating sites. However this can to easily lead to disappointment and rejection.

I met xxxx in a Starbucks coffeeshop. If I hadn’t made the effort to talk to her, I might still be on my own. So there you go. Put down your phone. Turn off tinder. Go and make a handsome stranger’s day. Remember: loneliness sucks big time.

Diary of a romance part 7

I’ve been single and I’ve been in a relationship.

I’m a different person when I’m with Miho.

For example: If I watch a film by myself and I don’t like it after the first 15 minutes, I tend to stop watching. But when we watch films together, we tend to watch them right through to the end, because it feels like we’ve made a commitment to watch a film together – so there is a feeling that we’re investing more of our time in it.

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we watched this film together. If I had watched it alone, I’d have switched off after 10 minutes.

Another thing is I’m more tempted to go out places and possibly socialise than when I was alone. For example, last weekend we went to Wimbledon to watch stock car racing. (for those who don’t know what this is, its when cars which are written off are raced around a track, often smashing into each other, its the opposite of Formula 1, in other words). I don’t think I would have gone by myself. In fact if I had done, it would have been terrible. But Miho and I had a great time together, precisely because we were experiencing it together, so our enjoyment was heightened.

I’m sure that I’ve said it before  – but its worth repeating, -it’s a world made for two…

Diary of a Romance Part 5

I used to be alone but now I’m not. That has been the single biggest change in my life since meeting Miho. It’s surprising that people don’t talk about loneliness much. Being alone doesn’t necessarily mean you are lonely.

There are times when I enjoy being by myself and times when I need to have company. But one thing is for sure: the world is more geared up for couples than single people.

I think it’s the right thing to do to spend time by yourself  sometimes but the way some people see it, it’s like a fate worse than death. It’s sad but people look at you differently if you go out by yourself. Either they assume that you’re by yourself because you want to be by yourself and they don’t talk to you for this very reason. I suppose this view is understandable but a little presumptuous.

But much worse are the people who look down on you and deliberately avoid you when you are out in a public place such as a restaurant or bar by yourself. It’s sad that people feel they need to act this way. We’re all alone at times and we all need friends and want to meet people so where on earth does this stigma come from?

Luckily I have Miho now and she’s around to keep me company. If I’m going somewhere I’ll ask Miho to come along. For one thing, I really enjoy having her around. And maybe I want to share my life with her and I have no reason to exclude her from anything, especially when it’s something she might enjoy.

That’s all for now. There’s so much to be happy about and I have no reason to focus on anything negative.