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How to have a WMAF relationship (and not be creepy)

The best thIng ABOUT WMAF relationships is that each party is trying something new – learning about each other’s respective cultures. All this can mean that it’s possible to be carried away by the  sheer novelty of it. 

Many WMAF couples become so enraptured with each other that they can ignore the fact that other people may not see their union in such a rosy light. The fact is, it’s not always so warmly accepted. The strength of the attraction has seen some people complain that some white men have an Asian fetish and look to sleep with as many Asian women as possible. 

And unfortunately, a fair few in the west are seemingly so triggered by the sight of an Asian woman with a white guy that they assume it must be coercive and even exploitative. 

The good thing is, you can avoid this happening if you abide by these rules. First, don’t be someone who only talks to girls because of their race or ethnicity. If you do this, you will find it harder to see their individuality and that also means you will be more likely to attract an Asian woman who is only attracted to your race as well. 

Seek out the Asian women with similar personailities, likes and dislikes. Definitely don’t fall into the trap of thinking that ALL Asian women are going to behave in a certain way. 

You don’t want to be the guy who expects Asian women to be always submissive, quiet and well-behaved. 

Avoid making attempts at getting to know everything about where she comes from. That’s too eager, a mistake I made several times, and then I learned my errors. You can talk about your own culture as much as you like, but you do not need to impress upon them how knowledgeable you are about her country.

Be aware of the stereotypes so that you know how to disprove them right away. You will hear a lot of outdated ideas, live with them. People will point out that Asian women are out for money, looking for a passport. These unfortunate ideas are slowly disappearing, but you never know when you might hear them from someone who needs to be more sensitive!

Avoid making making assumptions like, ‘Asian women are supposed to be like this’ or , I thought Koreans were supposed to respect their elders’. You’ll most likely end up arguing about it. Most people only start thinking about their identity when it’s brought up, and Asian women are no different in this regard. 

Show people how positive your relationship is. For example, a lot of white women take their  husband’s last name. flip conventions  on their ass by taking your wife’s Asian name. then people can see how much you reall love, honour and obey her. 

Choose an Asian women of approximately equal attractiveness to your own. If you marry an Asian woman of much higher attractiveness, the disapproval will be so great, you’ll never live it down. So go for someone of about the same level of desirability to your own. 

There, I think I just about covered everything.

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China Sex Fantasy

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My Chinese name is Weiling but ever since I came to England I ask people to call me Ling. People can remember it easily and it saves time too.  My parents were really against the idea of me coming to London to study, they thought it would be difficult for me to survive in another country, especially one as far away as England.  But really they just wanted me keep an eye on me, so that I didn’t get into any trouble. Chinese parents really like to keep an eye on their children, and it doesn’t stop when they start university, with many students living at home, especially if they’re girls. 

I came to London last summer, and I’ve been here almost a year. It took me a while to get used to the differences. The hardest part was the weather. I seriously thought I would quit after the  first month. The first thing I did was find some Chinese restaurants – Chinatown has quite a few, but I started to eat English food, and it was really good. Especially the bread, cheese and roast dinner. But the thing I like the most about England are the men – and it’s really easy to meet them here, because they love women from China. 

I laughed the first time I heard the phrase ‘yellow fever’ – I had no idea that men would be attracted to women for being Asian. But there are lots of Chinese women studying here, and my friends all told me that they started receiving a lot of attention when they first came here. I can go out to the café, or take the tube, and I only need to wait five minutes before someone comes up to me for whatever reason.

I have met men in clubs but I find it’s a lot of effort to go to all that trouble. This particular occasion happened one afternoon when I was out shopping in Regent Street.  I went there to look at some of the dresses in TopShop. I like the styles they have, most of it changes all the time, but you can always find something good there. My figure is slim, and I can wear a UK small size. I’m nearly five foot 6, which is on the tall side for a lot of Asian women. I have good legs, and my bust is modest but firm. My breasts are definitely there, even if they aren’t as large as some English girls’. Naturally, my hair is black, but I like to colour it on occasion, and sometimes I have even been blonde.

I was looking around the store for a while without buying anything. The music was starting to bother me so I went to the Starbucks on Berkeley Square.  I like to watch some of the rich people as they hurry out of their taxi and into one of the expensive member’s clubs.  Sometimes English men dress really scruffily, I can’t tell if they’re homeless or actually millionaires. 
 
I was waiting in the queue for my matcha latte and as I was about to pay this guy approached me and asked me if I would like to sit down and join him. I was feeling bored at the time so I told him I didn’t mind.  And also since he looked so dreamy I really couldn’t miss the chance to get close to him.  We talked a lot and when I finished my coffee he asked if I would like another. From his subtle (but expensive) clothes I could see that he could afford it, so I accepted his offer. 

“Well, would you like to have dinner?” We had been talking for nearly two hours…
”Well thanks, “ I said. “Just a small something because I don’t like to eat late.”
We carried on getting to know each other over dinner – which was at a small Italian serving elaborate small plates of cicceti. 
It was nearly 9, And I knew my housemates would be out somewhere, because we always went out on Thursday. 
“Ok, I said. I don’t normally do this. I live by the UCL building. You can come now because there’s no one home. But you have to be gone by 12, ok?”
“I’m sure we can find something to do in that time.”
“Good.” 
“He took his scarf off the table and wrapped it around his neck. 
We soon arrived at my flat, and I managed to get him inside without anyone seeing us.  He started kissing me as soon as we got inside, first gently and then more forcefully with his tongue pushing mine more firmly. I let him use his hands on me while I pulled him closer. We made out like this for some time before I pushed him gently away,.
“Just a second,  we should move to the bedroom , but give me a minute, ok?”
I wanted him to wait whilst I changed into something very sexy. I keep a lot of red underwear to sleep in, it’s a difficult colour but I think it matches my skin tone very well, and most men who see me in it agree.
“Ling? Can I Come in now?”
“Come in and fuck me hard.”
I can talk dirty when I’m in the mood.
I got on to my bed and opened my legs for him. 
“Come on, I’m already so wet.”
I pulled him on the bed and unbuttoned his shirt, took off his jeans and removed his boxer shorts. His cock was hardening, and I could see his balls tightening, they were so big he was going to have a lot of cum I could tell. I opened my legs as wide as I could and grabbed his hand and shoved it inside my underwear, so that he could feel my shaved vagina and then slowly work his fingers inside me. 
 
 
“DO you like that? “
“I love it , come on baby, I’m getting so wet.”
HE removed my underwear whilst the top half was still on. 
His face was staring directly at my pussy. It was as if he hadn’t seen one for a very long time. 
“Are you going to stare at it or are you gonna eat it?”
He climbed on the bed and got his head right in between my legs. He was staring at it like he didn’t know what to do.  Just put your tongue in and move it up and down. Then make a seal with your lips like you’re kissing someone. 
He got closer and then gently pushed his tongue inside me so that I could feel his warmth breath on me and I started to get a tingling feeling, and I had to steady my legs to stop my knees buckling. 
Keep going I told him. Do it to me harder.  I got my hands around his neck so that he was though to go deeper inside with my tongue, as he brought me off with my first orgasm I let him free temporarily. 
“ are you going to fuck me now?”
I pulled his cock up to my mouth and gave it some caressing strokes with my tongue, and used my hands on the warm skin underneath his balls to fluff them and keep them tight, I pulled my mouth away as his cock was starting to hit the back of my throat, his cock sprung upwards as it came out of my mouth. He moved downwards and easily put his dick into me, I was so wet that it met no resistance.  
He was hitting me with energy but I wanted more powerful sex.
I let him take me from behind which allowed his entire cock to enter me, and I came several times like this.  
I wanted to ride him next so I sat over him with my legs and let him thrust his way inside. 
“Oh my god, I’m coming. “ He pulled out just in time and I took his cock in my hand. The semen shot out in warm jets, it covered my hands, slid dowm my fingers and I used my hand to stroke him until he was totally spent. 
I asked him if I was his first Asian girl and he said yes. I was happy that I could have this honour and I look forward to being another guy’s Asian first!
 
 
 


 
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How to have an Asian girlfriend. (And how to keep her).

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Many people have said that they want an Asian girlfriend. But there are some important things to bear in mind, because it’s really easy to be caught out when you’re from too very different cultures. These things won’t be so obvious in the early stages, but I guarantee that after a while they will be – especially if you’re thinking about shacking up together. If you follow these key steps, you’re more likely to have a much smoother and easier relationship with fewer of the issues that can and do arise in many WMAF relationships (or black or Indian and Asian, whatever). 

Number 1 – Be prepared to pay for everything. 

It can take some getting used to, but you have to do this, if you’re used to dating only Western women. For at least the first three months, make sure that you cover the cost of the dates and anything else that comes up. Make sure you pay for any cups of coffee, movie tickets, dinners out and other things. Not fair?? But it kind of is fair. You see, Asian women expect the man to take care of them, because they will take care of you in return.  You can minimise the damage to your wallet by only having relationships with straight -forward Asian women, who aren’t the type to expect VIP tables at nightclubs or front row seats to Bruno Mars. What tends to happen when you pay for everything is that she starts to take care of you in return, and that’s a wonderful thing. It’s more common for women to say that they want to split the bill when they don’t really like you – as I have found, this is because when they don’t have romantic feelings, they want to make this as clear as possible. It’s much better this way, I’m sure you’ll agree.

So what I’m saying is, make sure you never ask her to pay for stuff on dates, at least for the first month or so. This is something most Asian guys understand really well for the most part. Of course, you aren’t giving her money for clothes, bags and makeup, or you really shouldn’t be.

Number 2. When you have an argument, you need to be the first to apologise. 

With western style relationships, if one of you has a fight, it’s normally the one who was in the wrong who must aplogise. But with Asians its more about the man coming to the woman first, offering to comfort her after an argument. Let’s say that you have a disagreement which results in some time apart, and you wait for her to come to you. You’re making a mistake because she will carry a lot of hurt. It’s much better for the relationship to aplogise, so that she can see that you care for her all the time. 

Number 3. Take your damn shoes off!

You might be comfortable living somewhere where you leave your shoes on inside the house, but this goes counter to everything Asians believe in. It’s not worth arguing about, unless you’re Larry David or something, and you don’t want to make this into a sticking point.

Number 4. Remember birthdays and anniversaries. 

The big ones for Asians seem to be Valentines Day (she gets you something) and White Day, a month later, where you return the favour. Again, I think that the quid pro quo makes it better for men. It’s not like you’re doing everything for her and getting nothing back in return.  There are some more special days for couples, but most are for Koreans only. 

Number 5 –  Share your food.

Share your food. In fact, you should make sure that her plate is fully topped up before you see to yours (same goes for any woman you are with). You should aim to do the same thing when you go out for a drink, have a coffee, or eat something at a street-food stand.  It took me a while to do this. But it’s about showing that she is important to you and making her feel treasured, and not thinking of yourself first all the time. 

Number 6 – Talk about your relationship with her. 

I know most men aren’t very direct with their feelings. But the best way to keep your Asian girlfriend is to remind her of your feelings whenever you can . Do it as often as you can – send texts, cards, whatever. You can see how important this is from the app Between, which was developed in South Korea. They actually developed it so that couples could have  a private space to share all of their memories and words of affection. I’m not suggesting you go that far. But many men have said that Asian women like to text on average several times a day. Don’t date an Asian women if that seems too high. 

Number 7 – Show an interest in her family. 

She will want you to know about her family early on. And whilst you might not think that this is important, you need to show an interest. Once you do this, you’ll find yourself being warmly embraced, at least in most cases (I have heard some stories where her family are hostile but this is more likely the elders, who are dying off anyway, taking their prejudices with them). When she talks to you about her family, it’s her way of showing you that she wants to get close to you and that she wants you to be a part of her life. Some men might find this hard to get used to, but it’s normal for most Asian women to be very close to their family.

These are just guidelines from what I’ve observed. It’s really interesting when you realise how embedded people are to their culture. It goes for Asian women bought up in Western countries too. Don’t think that she is going to ignore all of her culture just because she has grown up in a different system. and if you are planning to stay with an Asian woman for a long time, or even marry one, there are more things to consider, but I’m not qualified to give an opinion just yet.

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Hooking-up with Lulu

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The messaging app ‘We-chat’ is the number-one messaging app in China. As well as its ease of use, the app has a ton of great features. For example, using the ‘discover’ function allows you to find other users near you. As long as they have the feature turned on themselves, you can chat and add people who aren’t yet in your contacts list. Looking at the list of users will probably skew heavily towards one gender. But that doesn’t mean you should give up on the feature.

Recently, a Chinese girl living in London sent me a message through the function. We had a little back and forth and it looked like it was going nowhere. Then a month later I saw that she had accepted my ‘friend’ request’. Only a month after I sent it! We shared an exchange in which she asked me some basic questions, and I got the impression that it was going to be a text-only relationship, something which is frustratingly common when nobody has any interest in actually meeting up. But then she asked me if i wanted to come and see her, and could I bring a condom. I’m used to girls needing some persuasion in this area. Usually they want to meet up at least once or twice before anything sexual happens. Sometimes you have a great chemistry on the phone and then it all disappears once you finally meet up.

But Lulu was different. For a start, she was asking me to come to her place. Second. she was already telling me all kinds of things, like how wet she was getting, that her legs were already open. I couldn’t leave the house fast enough. Lulu’s house is about 40 minutes by public transport and I kept on texting her so that she wouldn’t cool down. Luckily she was so turned on that nothing was going to disrupt it. Sometimes, when girls get like this, nothing can change things.

Lulu lives in a secluded part of Queensway, not far from the tube station, just opposite from the old Whiteley’s Department store. I rang the buzzer and Lulu was able to let me in. She’d asked me if I wanted to be naked. and she was there to greet me in some sexy red underwear. she apologised for not wearing make-up (a very nice touch I thought). lulu led me straight into the bedroom, where she quickly got back under the covers. I threw off my coat, took off my shoes and socks, and slid in beside her. Straight away we were kissing each other and i let my hands wander across her body.

Asian girls have a way of getting right up close to you, and our bodies seemed to melt together. I enjoyed her sexy costume and decided to leave it on for a while. I was enjoying the feeling of her body pressing against me, as she was grinding against my jeans. I slipped my hands underneath her basque and gave her nipples a squeeze. her body was so slender; like amodel, and her breasts barely protruded from her chest. That doesn’t mean I didn’t enjoy stroking, nibbling at them and seeing them harden and swell twice their normal size. I put my hand inside her panties to feel how wet she was. Lulu was completely shaved, and I slid one of my fingers inside to get her ready. This made her even more excited as she rocked herself back and forth frantically. i undid my trousers, slipped out of my boxers and her hands went to my cock. I wasn’t fully erect, something that sometimes happens when I’m with someone new.

Fuck me, fuck me harder! lulu was saying over and over. For a Chinese girl, she knew exactly what to say. I gave it to her as hard as I could. Meanwhile, Lulu was guiding my hand to her ass, over her buttocks and into her asscrack. I enjoyed stroking this most private area and was thrilled that she was offering herself to me so completley and without any reservations.

I was losing my erection at this point. I was so focused on keeping Lulu happy that I ignored my own pleasure. I pulled out, and decided it was time to try oral. Lulu had already asked if I liked oral, and I had told her that I did. It was time to put her pussy to the test. I carefully repositioned Lulu so that I could get a good access to her vagina. Lulu was completely shaved and I started to work my way down south. I made a few circulatory laps near her lower belly, the slightly raised area of skin where she had removed her pubic hair told me that I was getting near the good area. I had a really good close up of her vagina. Her lips were open like flower petals and i began to kiss and put my lips over them. when I am with the right girl I can really get carried away giving them oral pleasure. I like to play around the outer area before putting my tongue all the way in.

I have heard people say that Asian women taste so much better down there than other women. Since I seem to only have sex with Asian women, maybe I’m not qualified on this. But I can confirm that in this case it was definitely a gourmet experience. I spent a good five minutes enjoying eating out Lulu, if only to give myself a rest before the next round!

After a quick break and a shower I got back into bed. Lulu took my cock in my hand and preceeded to give me a handjob. It took me a little time to get hard, but Lulu persisted, She grabbed my balls and pulled with just enough pressure so that I started to become hard again. Lulu backed herself against me and allowed me to enter her from the side, which gave me an ample opportunity to stoke her ass, kiss her neck and breasts. I was just high on being in her company,wandering from place to place.

We had time for one more position and I finished things up with Lulu on top. This seemed to be the stance that gave her the most enjoyment and was how she came the first time. I let her have some deep sttrokes, and allowed my cock to pull out completely so that she got the full benefit of it. I could see that the condom was shiny with some of Lulu’s juices, I was in heaven feeling it glide in and out of her hot pussy. Lulu was still wailing for me to fuck her harder. It got too much and I came, warning her that I was coming. Lulu just carried on fucking me anyway. Soon she realised what had happened, and we stopped. I slightly regretted finishing too quickly but in the circumstances. I gave Lulu a big kiss before holding her in my arms for a couple of minutes.

Verdict

Lulu was totally uninhibited, took great enjoyment in sex and was able to get the ball rolling. I’m sure if we had more time together we could have had an even wilder time. i have been a little wary of Chinese women in the past. They seem to be fairly hard to reach but now I’m having second thoughts. A year ago I would have said that Koreans are the best girls in Asia but i really don’t believe that now. The weChat app is a great way to get to know Chinese women and I now regularly use the ‘people near by’ function to get new aquantances. The fact that Lulu approached me first says a lot about the new attitudes of Asian women to sex and dating. I’m looking forward to meeting more women like her in the future.

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Yuka

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Nationality: Japanese

Yuka is one of the biggest girls I have ever been with. She would be big for a white girl but being Japanese she is positively huge. I don’t know her dress size, but probably a size 16 by English standards. We met online, where she was able to hide some of her weight by filtering and careful editing.

When I met her I was pretty unimpressed. She seemed fairly dull and un-engaging. But I soon realised that this was typical Japanese modesty and she was only acting like that because we were in a public place. We had some lunch and she took me to a karaoke bar. The best thing about these places is you can be alone with someone and get up to the kind of activity that is not possible in public places. First we started kissing, then I sat her on top facing towards me. It was a job to balance her weight but I just about managed it. Yuka was moaning that she was feeling really horny and I took things further by unbuttoning her top to reveal her incredible breasts. I played with them over the bra without revealing them fully. I wanted to save that for later. She was relishing all the attention her body was getting. Maybe it had been a long time since anybody had touched her like that? We left the karaoke room before we went any further.

The next day, Yuka met me at my hotel; we went there just as the room was available at 3pm. I wasted no time in getting Yuka on the bed and I started taking off her clothes. Yuka’s flesh around her stomach was a little off-putting so I mainly avoided this area. Instead, I set my sights on her massive tits. With Yuka on top, I had the best opportunity for some breast play. They weren’t too saggy and I let them jiggle as Yuka started to grind on top of me. Occasionally I positioned my head directly in front of them; getting the up close experience was kind of mesmerizing. Yuka was moaning and telling me she would do whatever I told her. I didn’t want to suggest anything too wild at this stage so I thought it was best to get her on some oral. She knelt in front of me and gave me some good sucking action. Her mouth was big enough for her to get her lips around my cock and get a nice rhythm going. I wanted to see Yuka play with herself while I watched. I told her to touch herself, and she stopped sucking me off. I watched as she started to rub her pussy with her left hand, and used her right to touch her breasts. This went on a few minutes; Yuka really knew how to get herself turned on.

I pulled Yuka down and gave her a deep kiss and I started to touch her pussy. She was ready for sex. Her pussy was wet enough for me to slide in with no problems. She was really a little loose compared to a lot of Asian girls. I banged her for quite some time – maybe ten minutes. It was easy for me to lie on top of her and enjoy her incredible breasts pressing into me. After we finished we slept on top of each other, and then we got up to shower together. I got hard as we were in there naked and I enjoyed letting Yuka scrub me down as I rubbed soap all over her breasts.

We met a few days later, and this time I was much more prepared and I knew her body much better. I was much more forceful this time. I threw her down on the bed and kissed her roughly. Again I played with her breasts, and this time, I spread her ass a bit as she was fucking me on top. I could feel how wet she was as I thrust in and out. This time we didn’t bother to use a condom. Using the bed-stand for support, I propped Yuka upright. I have always wanted to titty-fuck but I have never found a woman able to do it. Yuka looked confused initially but as I knelt in front of her she understood what was going on. With my cock positioned in her cleavage, Yuka was squeezing her breasts together and moving them up and down. With her head looking down, my cock was almost touching her chin, and Yuka was doing a great job. Yuka’s breasts were so big, i could hardly see my cock and I started to cum. It was awesome watching the semen shoot out of her breasts and Yuka blinked as some of it caught her in the eye. She was a little annoyed that she had to wash her hair again before we went out.

I’m hoping to see Yuka again. She is a very uninhibited girl with a high sex drive and by the sounds of things she is up for anything. She can play submissive very well and would love a strong man to tell her what to do. I soon forgot that she was overweight when I was sleeping with her. She has a lot of energy and her curves add to the excitement. If I see her again , I will definitely take some photos and perhaps make a recording of our time together. My mind is going crazy just thinking about it…….

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Zia

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I met Zia at one of the outdoor film screenings in London in the summer. She has a very cute face with well-sized brown eyes. Sometimes she wears glasses, which complement her general demeanor, which I would describe as sexy-anime style geek. I first thought she might have been from the Philippines but she is actually from China. The best thing about her are her large, double D breasts, which she likes to show off in a range of low-cut dresses and tops. I went on a couple of dates before taking her home with me.

I got her to sit facing me, and I pulled her closer to me. As we kissed, I felt her soft tongue on mine. I caressed her upper body and she began to moan loudly. I thought she was going to lose her balance so I led her to the bed.

All night I had been staring at her breasts, which seemed to be barely covered by her play-suit. I pulled it down from the back to reveal her pink two-tone bra. I caressed her breasts for a while over the material and enjoyed the sensation. Eventually I had to see them properly/. they really were some of the best breasts I have seen – soft, well-proportioned and with areolae that are good sized. When you get an Asian girl with large breasts you need to pay them a lot of attention and this was how it was on this occasion. I rubbed them with both hands and kissed them all over. I took Zia and positioned her on top so that I could get a good view of them, and let them brush up against me.

Zia carried on moaning and I could tell that she enjoyed the attention she was getting. I had already taken off my clothes. It was time for fucking. Zia took hold off my cock and stroked it for a while until it was hard. I pulled down her underwear and could see that she had a lot of pubic hair. I’ve been with several Chinese girls – enough to know that this is normal – but you might need to adjust your expectations.

By now I was very hard and I couldn’t wait to get my cock inside her. Zia was tight but I was able to get inside her nearly all the way, she started to moan that it was really hard. Zia started to grind herself against me, and then she was asking if I liked her. I enjoyed having Zia’s breasts banging against me so much that I forgot to change things up. Luckily I managed to take her from the side for several strokes, getting a decent grasp of her glorious breasts as I did so. I was feeling really horny – the combination of Zia’s lovely breasts and skin was knocking me out. I pulled out and moved zIA on her back. I use missionary when I am nearly ready to come. I like to be able to look at the girl and hold her hands whilst kissing her at the same time. Soon, I was coming. I let Zia carry on thrusting against me for a while afterwards as I filled the condom.

Verdict: satisfying sexual encounter. I loved Zia’s body – some Chinese girls are very small but Zia’s body had a slight layer of fat that made her very soft and her breasts were superb. If you get a girl with big tits and a smallish figure you are just golden. I would have liked it if she could have been a little more dominant, but all in all it was a great night with her.

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The real reason people teach English abroad

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Say what you will about teaching english abroad, it gets all kinds of comments online. Whatever you think about it, it’s been popular as a way for college students to delay their responsibilities some more, or to experience living abroad. But there’s one reason why so many decide to and teach in South Korea, Japan, China and Japan. Specifically, if you’re young and male, you’re going to be getting a lot more attention from women than you would at home.

That’s not what people put down on their supporting documents when they write their applications. Oh no. It’s all about expanding your horizons, giving something back, doing something they love.

Now I think about it, it’s not just for teaching. It goes for men travelling in Asia generally. Just imagine spending your entire life being made to feel worthless, not good enough for any woman you dare to approach. And then finding women who not only find you attractive, but are happy to have relationships with you as well, simply because they enjoy your company. I’ve heard of men who say that after going to Asia they will never date a white girl again.

Equally, I’ve encountered many women in Asia who are largely ignored because they don’t fit into the rigid boxes that society makes for them. Or they don’t have exactly the right physical attributes that men in those country expect women to have.

One day I’ll lose my hair, but it’ll be ok because I’ll look like Jason Statham.

Sometimes I see mismatched couples, usually when she is much more attractive than him. There are a few instances of Asian girls dating white guys that look just like Moby (thank you, Awkwafina). but many Asian women know their worth and are dating very attractive white guys. I don’t need to drive the point home too much. The evidence is all around. Geeky white guys (who stood watching everyone getting off with each other at parties) are going to Asia and marrying banging girls who end up coming back with them. If this were a movie it would be the feel-good hit of the year. But it’s not – it’s real life, and everyone’s winning in this love story.

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Sexless Korea

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Is it possible that I got it wrong about Korea? Specifically, that it’s really easy to get with women if you’re white?

Whilst there are those who would say otherwise, here are a few reasons why it’s actually hard, really hard, to get even a date here as a foreign male.

  1. The culture is totally different. Yes, it’s obvious, but any of the rules in other countries don’t apply here. The hook-up culture is not the same. For example, Tinder is used as much to make friends as it is for actual dating (or so I’m told).

Some Korean women won’t date foreigners. You could have excellent Korean, be successful and good-looking, but some Korean women won’t date you because you’re not Korean. Although you will see WMAF couples, you won’t see many really top-level Korean women going out with anyone not Korean. As much as I hate it, it’s just a fact of life here.

The clubs are as much for dancing as they are for meeting people. On the two occasions I have been to clubs, I saw that most people were staying in gender-segregated groups. Men were definitely not approaching woman to dance. It would be completely different back home. It’s even harder to approach people in bars, because people sit on separate tables and don’t even place their orders at the bar. Although there is less opportunity to take a girl home here (most people still live at home) Koreans use the same phrase for one night stand, showing that they are at least aware of the concept.

Koreans have a rigid dating culture, and to approach someone randomly on the street, or in a cafe, isn’t really done. Although I have tried it several times, in most cases I could feel that the women didn’t really want to have a conversation with me and made a point of moving on as soon as possible.

The sheer amount of foreign students and English teachers has made foreigners less of a novelty. In fact, I feel largely ignored here, and somewhat invisible, to the point where I can be in a room of Koreans and nobody will acknowledge me.

The possibility that women will feel judged if they go out with foreign men possibly puts them off approaching them in the first place.

Lastly, the fact is that there are some sickos out there who will date a korean woman and flood sites with articles like ‘Korean women are easy’. This sort of thing does nobody any favours. Whilst you must always take something like that with massive grain of salt, whether it’s even true – and ask yourself whether someone who was actually sleeping with a lot of women would want to tell others about it online – it’s going to only make it harder for everyone.

One thing I am seeing is that there are much more Korean men with western women. I guess its because men are much more comfortable dating out of their culture than women here.

Meanwhile any men moving to South Korea in search of easy sex should do an instant reality check.