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How to have an Asian girlfriend. (And how to keep her).

Many people have said that they want an Asian girlfriend. But there are some important things to bear in mind, because it’s really easy to be caught out when you’re from too very different cultures. These things won’t be so obvious in the early stages, but I guarantee that after a while they will be – especially if you’re thinking about shacking up together. If you follow these key steps, you’re more likely to have a much smoother and easier relationship with fewer of the issues that can and do arise in many WMAF relationships (or black or Indian and Asian, whatever). 

Number 1 – Be prepared to pay for everything. 

It can take some getting used to, but you have to do this, if you’re used to dating only Western women. For at least the first three months, make sure that you cover the cost of the dates and anything else that comes up. Make sure you pay for any cups of coffee, movie tickets, dinners out and other things. Not fair?? But it kind of is fair. You see, Asian women expect the man to take care of them, because they will take care of you in return.  You can minimise the damage to your wallet by only having relationships with straight -forward Asian women, who aren’t the type to expect VIP tables at nightclubs or front row seats to Bruno Mars. What tends to happen when you pay for everything is that she starts to take care of you in return, and that’s a wonderful thing. It’s more common for women to say that they want to split the bill when they don’t really like you – as I have found, this is because when they don’t have romantic feelings, they want to make this as clear as possible. It’s much better this way, I’m sure you’ll agree.

So what I’m saying is, make sure you never ask her to pay for stuff on dates, at least for the first month or so. This is something most Asian guys understand really well for the most part. Of course, you aren’t giving her money for clothes, bags and makeup, or you really shouldn’t be.

Number 2. When you have an argument, you need to be the first to apologise. 

With western style relationships, if one of you has a fight, it’s normally the one who was in the wrong who must aplogise. But with Asians its more about the man coming to the woman first, offering to comfort her after an argument. Let’s say that you have a disagreement which results in some time apart, and you wait for her to come to you. You’re making a mistake because she will carry a lot of hurt. It’s much better for the relationship to aplogise, so that she can see that you care for her all the time. 

Number 3. Take your damn shoes off!

You might be comfortable living somewhere where you leave your shoes on inside the house, but this goes counter to everything Asians believe in. It’s not worth arguing about, unless you’re Larry David or something, and you don’t want to make this into a sticking point.

Number 4. Remember birthdays and anniversaries. 

The big ones for Asians seem to be Valentines Day (she gets you something) and White Day, a month later, where you return the favour. Again, I think that the quid pro quo makes it better for men. It’s not like you’re doing everything for her and getting nothing back in return.  There are some more special days for couples, but most are for Koreans only. 

Number 5 –  Share your food.

Share your food. In fact, you should make sure that her plate is fully topped up before you see to yours (same goes for any woman you are with). You should aim to do the same thing when you go out for a drink, have a coffee, or eat something at a street-food stand.  It took me a while to do this. But it’s about showing that she is important to you and making her feel treasured, and not thinking of yourself first all the time. 

Number 6 – Talk about your relationship with her

I know most men aren’t very direct with their feelings. But the best way to keep your Asian girlfriend is to remind her of your feelings whenever you can . Do it as often as you can – send texts, cards, whatever. You can see how important this is from the app Between, which was developed in South Korea. They actually developed it so that couples could have  a private space to share all of their memories and words of affection. I’m not suggesting you go that far. But many men have said that Asian women like to text on average several times a day. Don’t date an Asian women if that seems too high. 

Number 7 – Show an interest in her family. 

She will want you to know about her family early on. And whilst you might not think that this is important, you need to show an interest. Once you do this, you’ll find yourself being warmly embraced, at least in most cases (I have heard some stories where her family are hostile but this is more likely the elders, who are dying off anyway, taking their prejudices with them). When she talks to you about her family, it’s her way of showing you that she wants to get close to you and that she wants you to be a part of her life. Some men might find this hard to get used to, but it’s normal for most Asian women to be very close to their family.

These are just guidelines from what I’ve observed. It’s really interesting when you realise how embedded people are to their culture. It goes for Asian women bought up in Western countries too. Don’t think that she is going to ignore all of her culture just because she has grown up in a different system. and if you are planning to stay with an Asian woman for a long time, or even marry one, there are more things to consider, but I’m not qualified to give an opinion just yet.

Hooking-up with Lulu

The messaging app ‘We-chat’ is the number-one messaging app in China. As well as its ease of use, the app has a ton of great features. For example, using the ‘discover’ function allows you to find other users near you. As long as they have the feature turned on themselves, you can chat and add people who aren’t yet in your contacts list. Looking at the list of users will probably skew heavily towards one gender. But that doesn’t mean you should give up on the feature.

Recently, a Chinese girl living in London sent me a message through the function. We had a little back and forth and it looked like it was going nowhere. Then a month later I saw that she had accepted my ‘friend’ request’. Only a month after I sent it! We shared an exchange in which she asked me some basic questions, and I got the impression that it was going to be a text-only relationship, something which is frustratingly common when nobody has any interest in actually meeting up. But then she asked me if i wanted to come and see her, and could I bring a condom. I’m used to girls needing some persuasion in this area. Usually they want to meet up at least once or twice before anything sexual happens. Sometimes you have a great chemistry on the phone and then it all disappears once you finally meet up.

But Lulu was different. For a start, she was asking me to come to her place. Second. she was already telling me all kinds of things, like how wet she was getting, that her legs were already open. I couldn’t leave the house fast enough. Lulu’s house is about 40 minutes by public transport and I kept on texting her so that she wouldn’t cool down. Luckily she was so turned on that nothing was going to disrupt it. Sometimes, when girls get like this, nothing can change things.

Lulu lives in a secluded part of Queensway, not far from the tube station, just opposite from the old Whiteley’s Department store. I rang the buzzer and Lulu was able to let me in. She’d asked me if I wanted to be naked. and she was there to greet me in some sexy red underwear. she apologised for not wearing make-up (a very nice touch I thought). lulu led me straight into the bedroom, where she quickly got back under the covers. I threw off my coat, took off my shoes and socks, and slid in beside her. Straight away we were kissing each other and i let my hands wander across her body.

Asian girls have a way of getting right up close to you, and our bodies seemed to melt together. I enjoyed her sexy costume and decided to leave it on for a while. I was enjoying the feeling of her body pressing against me, as she was grinding against my jeans. I slipped my hands underneath her basque and gave her nipples a squeeze. her body was so slender; like amodel, and her breasts barely protruded from her chest. That doesn’t mean I didn’t enjoy stroking, nibbling at them and seeing them harden and swell twice their normal size. I put my hand inside her panties to feel how wet she was. Lulu was completely shaved, and I slid one of my fingers inside to get her ready. This made her even more excited as she rocked herself back and forth frantically. i undid my trousers, slipped out of my boxers and her hands went to my cock. I wasn’t fully erect, something that sometimes happens when I’m with someone new.

Fuck me, fuck me harder! lulu was saying over and over. For a Chinese girl, she knew exactly what to say. I gave it to her as hard as I could. Meanwhile, Lulu was guiding my hand to her ass, over her buttocks and into her asscrack. I enjoyed stroking this most private area and was thrilled that she was offering herself to me so completley and without any reservations.

I was losing my erection at this point. I was so focused on keeping Lulu happy that I ignored my own pleasure. I pulled out, and decided it was time to try oral. Lulu had already asked if I liked oral, and I had told her that I did. It was time to put her pussy to the test. I carefully repositioned Lulu so that I could get a good access to her vagina. Lulu was completely shaved and I started to work my way down south. I made a few circulatory laps near her lower belly, the slightly raised area of skin where she had removed her pubic hair told me that I was getting near the good area. I had a really good close up of her vagina. Her lips were open like flower petals and i began to kiss and put my lips over them. when I am with the right girl I can really get carried away giving them oral pleasure. I like to play around the outer area before putting my tongue all the way in.

I have heard people say that Asian women taste so much better down there than other women. Since I seem to only have sex with Asian women, maybe I’m not qualified on this. But I can confirm that in this case it was definitely a gourmet experience. I spent a good five minutes enjoying eating out Lulu, if only to give myself a rest before the next round!

After a quick break and a shower I got back into bed. Lulu took my cock in my hand and preceeded to give me a handjob. It took me a little time to get hard, but Lulu persisted, She grabbed my balls and pulled with just enough pressure so that I started to become hard again. Lulu backed herself against me and allowed me to enter her from the side, which gave me an ample opportunity to stoke her ass, kiss her neck and breasts. I was just high on being in her company,wandering from place to place.

We had time for one more position and I finished things up with Lulu on top. This seemed to be the stance that gave her the most enjoyment and was how she came the first time. I let her have some deep sttrokes, and allowed my cock to pull out completely so that she got the full benefit of it. I could see that the condom was shiny with some of Lulu’s juices, I was in heaven feeling it glide in and out of her hot pussy. Lulu was still wailing for me to fuck her harder. It got too much and I came, warning her that I was coming. Lulu just carried on fucking me anyway. Soon she realised what had happened, and we stopped. I slightly regretted finishing too quickly but in the circumstances. I gave Lulu a big kiss before holding her in my arms for a couple of minutes.


Lulu was totally uninhibited, took great enjoyment in sex and was able to get the ball rolling. I’m sure if we had more time together we could have had an even wilder time. i have been a little wary of Chinese women in the past. They seem to be fairly hard to reach but now I’m having second thoughts. A year ago I would have said that Koreans are the best girls in Asia but i really don’t believe that now. The weChat app is a great way to get to know Chinese women and I now regularly use the ‘people near by’ function to get new aquantances. The fact that Lulu approached me first says a lot about the new attitudes of Asian women to sex and dating. I’m looking forward to meeting more women like her in the future.